Misconceptions of love

What is love? Some choose to define it as an attraction to someone or the act of finding someone who does everything for you. I choose to define love as a process of finding someone whose purpose is in line with yours and whose values and principles are the same with yours. It is not feeling based nor is it an emotion.

Our generation has created an illusion of how love should be. It has reduced love to mean attraction and romance to mean love, but desiring someone doesn't automatically mean they are right for you. Take your time before you waste your time. 

Love is about serving someone besides yourself. Don't allow the world to feed you with a false illusion of love where it is driven by lust and selfish gain.  Sex is not an act of proving that you love someone and that's where most people get played. If you remove sex from the equation you will realize that most people have nothing to offer in relationships. If you wonder if a person loves you, they don't. Love cant hide. Love cant be disguised. Love is or isn't. Don't get it twisted!

Most people allow their feelings and emotions to determine their decisions. Love is not about emotions nor is it feeling based because feelings change and fade. You must be able to make a decision to be with someone without emotions being involved because the way you feel today might not be the way you will wake up feeling tomorrow. We have to develop a spiritual stamina so that we don't act out of emotions but out of wisdom.

More relationships have failed because too many people view love selfishly. We filter love through a"what have you done for me lately"  mentality. Somehow we have separated sacrifice from love and think its going to survive. Love isn't self serving and the choice to act and respond through love will, at times, go directly against what you are feeling. Unfortunately we have harboured this "follow your heart mindset" and essentially birthed a generation full of entitled individuals waiting for someone to offer them what they are unwilling to offer themselves. 

Love is a two way thing and never unidirectional. Give and sacrifice what you would want or expect the other person to do for you. Desire longetivity not a moment, desire commitment not involvement , desire transparency not secrecy, desire effort not interest.